Kitty Concerto

So the challenge that was presented by the bad-ass blogger Huckdoll was this:

Power Down from 9-10pm on Tuesday night.  Meaning “Get Off the Damn Computer!” for a whole hour.

And wouldn’t you know it, my brother-in-law (who we will forever now call him Drummer Boy [DB] because he teaches drumming and his wife Violin Diva [VD], well because she plays violin and is a complete diva.  Seems self explanatory) called and invited Mr. Cat and I for an impromptu dinner with them and several of our friends! 

Now I have something actually to do for this challenge!  Yippie.  

Oh wait a minute.  I forgot.  I don’t particularly like my in-laws.  Darn.  But I do like our friends, so I was excited to see our goofy-but-love-him-like-a-brother- friend and his 6 months preggo wife, who I just adore. 

Because Mr. Cat and I are A-holes, during the car ride to their house, we decided to play a game with ourselves during the course of dinner. (not that kind of game!  dirty birds.  that’s why I love you!)  We would count how many times….

-DB would ask or joke if I was pregnant (I can’t begin to explain how much I loathe that)

-VD would boss DB around using his name (just her saying his name over and over can drive a person mad)

-DB would refer to their 9 month old child as “his daughter” “your neice” etc., without using her name.  (he likes to do this to inflate his ego and force a relationship.  Of course we want to love our niece!  Don’t boss us)

-VD deflects mommy duties and passes it to DB. (quote from my MIL “if he had breasts he would be breast feeding too”  DB does about 90% of all parental duties)

So imagine my dissappointement when we racked up nearly zero entries for each of these categories.  Bummed I tell ya.

We had a reasonably good time.  Food was decent.  I brought a salad that I’ve never made before and was thrilled it was edible.  Good for me! 

Although there was a major theme that truly saddened me about this evening.  

At some point I felt as though Mr. Cat and I were left out of the interaction because we didn’t have children.  Now to be fair, it didn’t happen the entire evening.  Just a part, but since this is a regular occurance with DB and VB, I am reminded why I have issues interacting with them.

There’s racism and sexism, but did you know of “childless-ism”?  People who have children, but who can no longer tolerate or comprehend those that do not.  Guess which group I’m in?  (btw-I just made that up, so don’t go looking up dictionary.com or anything).  Some of you who have been here a while now know that Mr. Cat and I are actively TTC.  So this form of despicable attitude really and truly hurts.  

The eye rolling when we talk about our cats lives.  

The insane comments of “oh well when ever it happens for you”, just dripping with mockery.

The complete lack of understanding that we don’t just drop whatever we are doing to manage their lives because “they have a baby”.

This scenario is very similar to another recent (ok so a year ago) life embarkment.  Weddings.  Remember when you were a bride or a bridesmaid?  Remember how the bride couldn’t sit for a moment without discussing her upcoming nuptials?  Remember that bride’s awful attitude about anything going on in your life?  That’s what I’m experiencing with not just DB and VB, but many other parents we know.

*sigh*

I want to be a part of the club.  I really do.  But when I get in, believe me I won’t treat my childless friends as though they are disease ridden and contagious and I might catch it.  Or worse.  I would never just cut out my childless friends simply because they are childless, whether by choice or circumstance.  

But what made everything worthwhile was seeing this cuite pie (I took this shot thinking of the fabulous OHMommy, because she gave some pointers, with this angle being one of them)

And I especially loved seeing that cutie pie with my sweetie pie

Clapping clearly makes for a good time.

Aren’t babies fun?  And adorable?  

Well to cap off the evening, I made sure to take a couple of shots of my hair, just for you April!

That top shot reminds me of a Jessica Simpson pose on the red carpet, without mouth wide open though.  

So you see….. plain, simple, boring cut.  But it works I guess.

And one more announcement (because this post isn’t long enough…..).  Over at the ever fantastic AFF, she is hosting numerous contests in the month of July celebrating her one year Blogoversary!  Congrats!  She has politely asked for those who want to play to put up this awesome button…

Since I am not too computer savy, instead of putting it into my sidebar (since I don’t know how–totally lame I know), I thought that I would put up this button in every post this week to worship her support her.

Go over and say hi!